=> You are the Driver of your `Life ? <=
#1
03-09-2015 | 08:15 AM
=> You are the Driver of your `Life ? <=
Baumann
What would happen if you took the time to choose what you wanted in life rather than letting life choose it for you?
I am sure that many of you know people who appear to be living their lives on ‘autopilot’. They get up in the morning, get ready to work, drive to work using the same route, do their daily work tasks, drive home from work using the same route as before, eat dinner, perhaps play with the kids, watch TV and then go to bed. The next morning it starts all over again. Before you know it, weeks have gone by, months and then even years.
What would happen if you took the time to choose what you wanted in life rather than letting life choose it for you?
I am sure that many of you know people who appear to be living their lives on ‘autopilot’. They get up in the morning, get ready to work, drive to work using the same route, do their daily work tasks, drive home from work using the same route as before, eat dinner, perhaps play with the kids, watch TV and then go to bed. The next morning it starts all over again. Before you know it, weeks have gone by, months and then even years.
Sometimes a ‘life crisis’ happens, a severe accident, a life-threatening illness, the death of a loved one, or perhaps just mid-life, and these people who have been on ‘autopilot’ for so many years suddenly appear to ‘wake-up’ and take a good look at the lives they have been living. They may realize that they have been ‘human doings’ rather than ‘human beings,’ living their lives for everyone and everything other than themselves.
What is ironic about this situation is that, whether we like it or not, we are the author’s of our own lives. Everything that we have right now is the RESULT of the choices and decisions we have made along the way, even if for the most part they were made on ‘autopilot’ or based according to some sort of ‘should,’ ‘could,’ or ‘ought to’. We get hooked into these external expectations and the idea of our own personal and authentic life goes down the tubes. A life crisis does not have to be the precipitating factor to making positive change in your life though. Take a good hard look at you life right now and ask yourself:
What is ironic about this situation is that, whether we like it or not, we are the author’s of our own lives. Everything that we have right now is the RESULT of the choices and decisions we have made along the way, even if for the most part they were made on ‘autopilot’ or based according to some sort of ‘should,’ ‘could,’ or ‘ought to’. We get hooked into these external expectations and the idea of our own personal and authentic life goes down the tubes. A life crisis does not have to be the precipitating factor to making positive change in your life though. Take a good hard look at you life right now and ask yourself:
“If I am not the one in the driver's seat, then who or what is?”
Living your life in the driver’s seat means that you know what you want and what is most important to you. You live a balanced and happy life filled with purpose and meaning. You have taken the time to create an authentic, vibrant and happy life, because if you don’t take the time to choose what you want, life will choose it for you.
Living your life in the driver’s seat means that you know what you want and what is most important to you. You live a balanced and happy life filled with purpose and meaning. You have taken the time to create an authentic, vibrant and happy life, because if you don’t take the time to choose what you want, life will choose it for you.
The way to get back into the driver’s seat of your life is to create a life strategy.
If you want to get the most out of your money you create a financial strategy. The same is true for your life. If you want to get the most out of your life you need to create a life strategy.
If you want to get the most out of your money you create a financial strategy. The same is true for your life. If you want to get the most out of your life you need to create a life strategy.
A sound life strategy can be described as a house. The bottom foundation of your house is your personal foundation. The stronger it is, the less likely your house/life will crumble under stress. The four cornerstones of your house/life are:
- clarity of what your life is like now
- clarity of what you want your life to be
- cleaning up unfinished business from you past
- clarity of the beliefs and attitudes that may or may not be serving you
For example, let’s say that I do not have a life partner and I want one.
The first thing I do is look at how strong my personal foundation is. Have I set high standards, requirements and boundaries in my life? Have I taken the time to find out what is most important to me and discover what needs are driving me? Do I have reserves in every area of my life and do I look after myself well?
Once my personal foundation is strong then I begin to build the cornerstones of my house/life.
- I take the time to describe what my life is like without a life partner – exactly as it is right now.
- I create a long term vision with absolute explicit detail about the kind of life partner I would like to have and how my life would be different with him or her in it.
- I look at past relationships that may be in some way getting in the way of attracting a life partner now and deal with it.
- I look at my beliefs and attitudes that may or may not be serving me in my quest of having a life partner. I reframe the beliefs and attitudes that are not serving me into ways that they will.
This approach can be used for every area of your life. Once your personal foundation has been built, you can build many rooms in your house, each with different cornerstones, for all of the other areas of your life. Without you in the driver’s seat of your life, however, you will never have the life of your dreams. Take back control and begin LIVING your life for you! Begin creating a Life Strategy NOW!
Remember, "If you can DREAM it
, you can DO it." – Walt Disney
I post the above for myself & for you
"Be the Driver of your `Life & your Monte Carlo"
I hope the above helps someone & inspires.
Peace/Out
Remember, "If you can DREAM it
, you can DO it." – Walt DisneyI post the above for myself & for you
"Be the Driver of your `Life & your Monte Carlo"
I hope the above helps someone & inspires.
Peace/Out
#2
03-09-2015 | 08:33 AM
I am trying hard to live up to this BB_Mike. Hard decisions needed to be made.
I gave work notice recently of my intent to retire next year. No one else at the company knows how to do my job. They asked me if I where open to a consulting position afterward, or postpone my retirement. Told them maybe if the terms where right i would consult and that prolonged postponement of my retirement was not an option.
As for my mom, it was wifey's and my decision to take her in 3 years ago. Her needs have gotten so intense that we have lost control of our course in life. We are getting her settled in into a senior car center today
Hopefully the direction that Ronda and I must steer our life will change to a course better suited for the two of us, and more suitable for the stage where we are at in life.
With the kids on their own and retirement in the near future it is time for Ronda and I to get re-antiquated with each other and explore the road we have ahead
I gave work notice recently of my intent to retire next year. No one else at the company knows how to do my job. They asked me if I where open to a consulting position afterward, or postpone my retirement. Told them maybe if the terms where right i would consult and that prolonged postponement of my retirement was not an option.
As for my mom, it was wifey's and my decision to take her in 3 years ago. Her needs have gotten so intense that we have lost control of our course in life. We are getting her settled in into a senior car center today
Hopefully the direction that Ronda and I must steer our life will change to a course better suited for the two of us, and more suitable for the stage where we are at in life.
With the kids on their own and retirement in the near future it is time for Ronda and I to get re-antiquated with each other and explore the road we have ahead
#3
03-09-2015 | 08:46 AM
Hi 'Tadd & thanks for your post/words and sharing your life's strategies to deal with difficult decisions. I think you are doing what is best for you & your family.This thread is inspired by my friend `Space & the teachings of his grandfather & the senior citizens that helped raise me & the bum's.
I posted it to remind myself & hopefully help others that are in my online 'life. I see so many that seem lost in life & seem to have no direction. I really believe in being ones driver in life & for a person to take time to make their own map/plan to get to where they want to `be.
I know that I've made some wrong turns in life & a few times ended up on a dead `end. I've learned to turn around & search for better roads to travel my journey of life.
Wish you and member's the best on finding the right roads for them to travel on their journey's of life...Good Luck & dedication to `all.
"Dream `it > Believe `it > Do `it" 4>Sure
>Whose driving your life ?<
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