>Thank You<
#1
04-26-2016, 12:19 PM
>Thank You<
In case I 4-got 
thank you for being a active contributing member to the MCF 
thank you for being a active contributing member to the MCF Why do some people find it so difficult to say 'Thank You'? This thread is a reminder to me.
Do you have people in your life that you do for and they never say Thank You ?
or,
Do you have people in your life that do for you and you never say `Thanks to them ?
Do you keep doing things for people in your life that never show any appreciation for what you do for them in life ? Why ?
Saying 'thank you' and giving gratitude does not come easily for many people. It is often difficult to say 'thank you', for a variety of reasons, especially the following main ones:
1. General lack of interactional skills in dealing with praise.
If someone is not used to being thanked, or praised, it is very likely that they will find it awkward to give such praise when it is required. Often people are just lacking in the knowledge and practice of how to deal with others kindly and compassionately. Many people also take their lives for granted, especially the blessings they have. They do not know how to show gratitude for anything, because they accept everything they acquire as a kind of entitlement. When they have to give thanks in any way, they are likely to find it embarrassing, or alien to their experience. That is why many people do not really know how to act in the face of kindness. They are often unsure what is required of them, treat it as something negative, and say nothing instead.
However, the most important reason behind the difficulty in saying 'thank you' is that it can generate a feeling of obligation to someone else. The minute one is thanked, there is a new channel open between the giver and the recipient that leaves people feeling vulnerable to future actions and expectations, as they are not quite sure what to expect after that. There is a feeling that something else should happen after saying that 'thank you', but one is never quite sure. So people avoid saying it altogether, to prevent any undue focus on themselves, any new expectations arising because of it, and the avoidance of feeling that one always has to do something similar to reciprocate it. In effect, not saying 'thank you' keeps the communication channel conveniently closed.
However, saying 'thank you' should be a natural, positive, feel-good form of interaction to show our gratitude for any action we might be pleased with, or any service we are accorded. But it does depend on how we feel in saying it, what we expect after it is said, and how it is perceived by its intended recipient as it could be the innocent opener to a whole lot more.
And while I'm posting this, THANK YOU for reading it!
It reminded me to thank the people in my life that do for me
1. General lack of interactional skills in dealing with praise.
If someone is not used to being thanked, or praised, it is very likely that they will find it awkward to give such praise when it is required. Often people are just lacking in the knowledge and practice of how to deal with others kindly and compassionately. Many people also take their lives for granted, especially the blessings they have. They do not know how to show gratitude for anything, because they accept everything they acquire as a kind of entitlement. When they have to give thanks in any way, they are likely to find it embarrassing, or alien to their experience. That is why many people do not really know how to act in the face of kindness. They are often unsure what is required of them, treat it as something negative, and say nothing instead.
However, the most important reason behind the difficulty in saying 'thank you' is that it can generate a feeling of obligation to someone else. The minute one is thanked, there is a new channel open between the giver and the recipient that leaves people feeling vulnerable to future actions and expectations, as they are not quite sure what to expect after that. There is a feeling that something else should happen after saying that 'thank you', but one is never quite sure. So people avoid saying it altogether, to prevent any undue focus on themselves, any new expectations arising because of it, and the avoidance of feeling that one always has to do something similar to reciprocate it. In effect, not saying 'thank you' keeps the communication channel conveniently closed.
However, saying 'thank you' should be a natural, positive, feel-good form of interaction to show our gratitude for any action we might be pleased with, or any service we are accorded. But it does depend on how we feel in saying it, what we expect after it is said, and how it is perceived by its intended recipient as it could be the innocent opener to a whole lot more.
And while I'm posting this, THANK YOU for reading it!
It reminded me to thank the people in my life that do for me
p.s. Thanks to our active MCF Staff & active member's that
keep the MCF active, fun & informative.
*Our Staff is not paid.
keep the MCF active, fun & informative.
*Our Staff is not paid.
Last edited by BeachBumMike; 04-26-2016 at 01:29 PM.
#2
04-26-2016, 12:51 PM
>Appreciation<
In Appreciation to my Monte Carlo Friends
(dedicated this post to my best friend `Space)
(dedicated this post to my best friend `Space)
Last edited by BeachBumMike; 04-26-2016 at 02:46 PM.
#4
04-26-2016, 07:06 PM
I do it just for you
Thanks you much Mod Barbara for all your posts and your dedication to the MCF
You add so much diversity to the forum & you are our most
active Moderator on the MCF.
You invest so much of your personal time to keep the forum
updated and running smoothly.
I know that the majority of the member's appreciate it, even if
some 4-get to let you know...
>Thanks 4 being you
You're my kind of people<.THANK YOU
#5
04-26-2016, 07:14 PM
AWWWW
Now ya got me blushing!!! LOL
Diversity is your code word for weirdness isn't it??? LOL
Well then I guess I am quite diverse!!!
I love being here. That is why I do what I do
Now ya got me blushing!!! LOL
Diversity is your code word for weirdness isn't it??? LOL
Well then I guess I am quite diverse!!!
I love being here. That is why I do what I do
#7
04-27-2016, 03:58 PM
Thanks everyone that posted & keeps the MCF active<
..LoL Barbara, no that's my word 4 me>(weirdness)Thanks for your posts & laughs 4-Sure
Hi `Mike, thanks for your kind words. I appreciate for sure. I'd rather try to make people happy
, then Sad 
#9
04-27-2016, 08:37 PM
thanks for being my 1st forum friend!! Mike!!
great group of people here. I feel right at home
great group of people here. I feel right at home
#10
04-27-2016, 08:53 PM
Thanks to BBMike because when he is not off working on the islands, he really does an awesome job of keeping the forum active!!!
New Mike, we are glad you are here. Help us keep the forum active by checking in on the daily blog, posting mods or repairs you are doing on your Monte, etc. Feel free to post questions you may have about your Monte and if you can help another member out with a problem/repair they have, please do.
Now that you are a full member, you can post pics of your Monte and participate in voting for Monte of the Month, and you can post in the classified section, if needed.
New Mike, we are glad you are here. Help us keep the forum active by checking in on the daily blog, posting mods or repairs you are doing on your Monte, etc. Feel free to post questions you may have about your Monte and if you can help another member out with a problem/repair they have, please do.
Now that you are a full member, you can post pics of your Monte and participate in voting for Monte of the Month, and you can post in the classified section, if needed.