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How To Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself 
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Do you ever feel sorry 4 yourself ?
I `do, but I prefer to be happy with myself so that I
can be happy with others in my `life.
Life is like a roller coaster with all it's `ups & downs..
Wish you, (yes you) reading this more `ups then downs 
Take control & `be the driver of your life & drive `it
to where you want to `be 4-Sure!
Good Luck > Make it happen..
U R the driver 
aren't you
aren't you 
It’s hard to feel self-pity with a view like this
We have all had the experience of being told ‘stop feeling sorry for yourself’. It is also something we occasionally say (or at least want to say) to those around us.
Feeling sorry for yourself is a poor state to be in, but, yet human nature means we can often end up wallowing in self-pity.
Why We Feel Sorry For Ourself.
If we can understand why we feel sorry for ourselves then we can work out whether it is justified or helpful.
Injured Pride.
The oft repeated saying ‘pride comes before a fall’ is quite apt. When are pride is hurt, when we feel embarrassed, when we are jealous we can sink into self pity. If we placed less value on our pride and self image, we would be less effected.
Hope for Sympathy / Feeling of guilt.
A large part of feeling sorry for ourselves, is that consciously or unconsciously we are looking for sympathy. Perhaps something unfortunate has happened. By exacerbating our sorrow and misery we feel we will attract more sympathy, love and concern from others. Often we are not really consciously aware that this is our motivation.
Related to the desire for sympathy, is the desire to make others feel guilty. Perhaps someone has caused us problems. We can feel that by displaying our unhappiness, we will make the other party feel suitably guilty, and somehow this will make them do the right thing next time.
If we can honestly analyse our motivation, it can be something of a revelation. Often we fall into a rut of self-pity without really understanding our own inner motivations. But, if these are our motivations for self-pity then we feel it is worth overcoming them.
Self-pity does not
Console one’s mind.
Self-pity cannot
Strengthen one’s heart.
Self-pity only makes one
A real stranger to oneself.
How To Stop Feeling Sorry For Yourself.
Forget all about it.
When you’re in a rut. You can’t beat just completely forgetting about it or throwing yourself into something else. If we just sit and brood we will never fight the negative cycles of our mind – because it is the nature of the mind to hang onto negativity. But, when we don’t give the mind time to brood, we can easily shrug off the worthless feelings of self-pity.
It’s Not Going to Help
Self pity is often a call for help – a hope for greater love and attention. And we may get it – at least temporarily. But, we have to bear in mind that when we are wallowing in self-pity, many will not want to spend time with us. There is a difference between genuine difficulties and self-made imaginery suffering. False friends will disappear at the first sign of trouble. But, even true friends will get burnt out if we exploit their compassion with persistent self-pity
Feeling Sorry for yourself will not make others change for the better. Our mind may feel that if we make others feel guilty, they will do the right thing. But, human nature rarely works like this. If we try to make others feel guilty we won’t make them do the right thing. In fact, they will just resent us more. To create positive change in others, we ourselves have to be positive ourselves. We need to approach people with positive suggestions for improvements, not with a delicate sense of passive aggressiveness.
Be Happy Not Proud
Feeling sorry for ourselves only makes us unhappy. We have to make a conscious effort to choose happiness. If we forget about the past and live in the present moment, how can we carry around our unfortunate experiences?
Successful people have self discipline
Unsuccessful people have self pity
true 4-Sure
Unsuccessful people have self pity
true 4-Sure Last edited by Space; Feb 27, 2013 at 08:28 AM.
10 Tips To Get out of a Rut
10 Tips To Get out of a Rut
By tejvan
If you find yourself stuck in a rut, life can become monotonous, dreary and uninspiring. It is easy to feel life is going nowhere, especially if we have problems at work or with family. To bring newness into our lives we need to first realise that we are actually stuck in a rut. After that we can make a conscious decision to rejuvenate our lives.
Here are some Practical Tips to Get out of a Rut.
1. Set Challenges
Personal challenges are a very powerful way of motivating yourself to do something new. If there is no target it is easy to make a half-hearted effort and give up. However, when we have something very clear to aim for, it is much more likely we will actually make something happen.
2. Focus on the Present Moment
Do you spend alot of time regretting the past? Everyone makes decisions they later regret, but, if you become consumed with regret you will not be able to move forward and forget the experience. Don’t be preoccupied with the past and future, try to enjoy the present moment.
3. Do Without Some Everyday things
It is easy to get into a routine where we spend several hours doing the same uninspiring activities. If you are addicted to watching TV, surfing the net or playing computer games, make a decision to do without them for a day or week; this will force you to do something completely different. This does not mean you have to give up watching TV completely. It is just that if we become totally absorbed in one activity, it leaves no opportunity for discovering newness in our life.
4. Learn a new Skill
There are many things that we could use to improve our life. Learning a new skill gives us the opportunity to find a new avenue for creativity and inspiration. In the process of learning we can get a feeling of self improvement. This is the best antidote to being stuck in a rut.
5. Do Something for Other People
When we live only for our own pleasure, there feels something lacking. When we do something selflessly for other people, we bring out the best in ourselves. Offering useful service to other people is highly rewarding.
6. Look at things from a different perspective
When life becomes boring, it is often a reflection of our inner attitude. If we have a tendency to be negative, then it is more likely that we become bored with life. For example, try to look at relationships from a different perspective; stop complaining about other people’s behaviour, if you wait for other people to behave as you want them to, you will always be frustrated. Instead practise tolerance and patience.
7. Don’t listen Endlessly to Your Thoughts
It is your own thoughts that make you feel you are stuck in a rut, and that life is boring and futile. But, why do have to listen to these thoughts? Learn to manage your thoughts and let go of these negative opinions. If you can clear your mind, this will make a big difference to your outlook on life.
8. Spend Time With Enthusiastic People like `Space (lol)
If you feel stuck in a rut, don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself. If you spend some time with enthusiastic / positive people, some of this energy will rub off on yourself. Even if you don’t particularly feel like doing it, meeting other people will take you out of yourself and help to reenergise yourself.
9. Don’t Keep Complaining
You could spend 24 hours a day complaining about various things; but, would that give you any satisfaction? When we complain we actually give our energy and focus to the negative. Complaining just makes life seem more dreary and unfair.
10. Humour
Even in the most banal experiences there is the opportunity for humour. Don’t take life too seriously, always try to see the funny side. Without humour the world would have ended many years ago.
By tejvan
Here are some Practical Tips to Get out of a Rut.
1. Set Challenges
Personal challenges are a very powerful way of motivating yourself to do something new. If there is no target it is easy to make a half-hearted effort and give up. However, when we have something very clear to aim for, it is much more likely we will actually make something happen.
2. Focus on the Present Moment
Do you spend alot of time regretting the past? Everyone makes decisions they later regret, but, if you become consumed with regret you will not be able to move forward and forget the experience. Don’t be preoccupied with the past and future, try to enjoy the present moment.
3. Do Without Some Everyday things
It is easy to get into a routine where we spend several hours doing the same uninspiring activities. If you are addicted to watching TV, surfing the net or playing computer games, make a decision to do without them for a day or week; this will force you to do something completely different. This does not mean you have to give up watching TV completely. It is just that if we become totally absorbed in one activity, it leaves no opportunity for discovering newness in our life.
4. Learn a new Skill
There are many things that we could use to improve our life. Learning a new skill gives us the opportunity to find a new avenue for creativity and inspiration. In the process of learning we can get a feeling of self improvement. This is the best antidote to being stuck in a rut.
5. Do Something for Other People
When we live only for our own pleasure, there feels something lacking. When we do something selflessly for other people, we bring out the best in ourselves. Offering useful service to other people is highly rewarding.
6. Look at things from a different perspective
When life becomes boring, it is often a reflection of our inner attitude. If we have a tendency to be negative, then it is more likely that we become bored with life. For example, try to look at relationships from a different perspective; stop complaining about other people’s behaviour, if you wait for other people to behave as you want them to, you will always be frustrated. Instead practise tolerance and patience.
7. Don’t listen Endlessly to Your Thoughts
It is your own thoughts that make you feel you are stuck in a rut, and that life is boring and futile. But, why do have to listen to these thoughts? Learn to manage your thoughts and let go of these negative opinions. If you can clear your mind, this will make a big difference to your outlook on life.
8. Spend Time With Enthusiastic People like `Space (lol)
If you feel stuck in a rut, don’t waste time feeling sorry for yourself. If you spend some time with enthusiastic / positive people, some of this energy will rub off on yourself. Even if you don’t particularly feel like doing it, meeting other people will take you out of yourself and help to reenergise yourself.
9. Don’t Keep Complaining
You could spend 24 hours a day complaining about various things; but, would that give you any satisfaction? When we complain we actually give our energy and focus to the negative. Complaining just makes life seem more dreary and unfair.
10. Humour
Even in the most banal experiences there is the opportunity for humour. Don’t take life too seriously, always try to see the funny side. Without humour the world would have ended many years ago.
Last edited by Space; Feb 27, 2013 at 07:44 AM.
Hi `Mod `Mike,
Yes I agree 100%, but you are fortunate to have so many choices in rides to Hop `in & go for a drive
How many rides do you have or can get the keys to ? You have a ride for just about every occassion...Wish you & member's safe/happy miles on your journey of `life....Thanks for your post/words
As I am working from home and we got about 4 inches of snow, and work was getting to be stressfull I fired up Mad Max our showblower and helped 3 neighbors dig out
Not stressed any more just sweaty (LOL)
Not stressed any more just sweaty (LOL)
This is taking a weird turn.
Good advice in your first post Space. But I also like Mike's idea too. Get in the car and drive. I took a drive this morning. Right into an emissions test.
Good advice in your first post Space. But I also like Mike's idea too. Get in the car and drive. I took a drive this morning. Right into an emissions test.
Joined: Nov 2011
Posts: 1,043
From: massachusetts
drives on a nice warm day right round 75 degrees off on the backroads of westrn mass nothing beats it. especially with Lola and my moms 96 grand am coupe Special Edition lol. only thing special about it is the rims and the stronger exhaust note over Lola
